Fight For A Woman

I wanted to write a piece in honor of women's history month and the release of my first published book, Black Queen Struggle. I admit, my book is very unapologetic in my critiques of the systematic racism and brutality inflicted on black women in the united states and I don't advocate for the unity between black and white women in the Feminist, Women's Rights Movement of the 1970s.

But I do not disregard the idea of women of other races genuinely wanting to help us in our fight for liberation. My intentions were with the sole purpose of uniting black sisters and bridging the divide between us, our men, and our children.

Although my book was published in 2021, I completed my final chapter in 2019. That doesn't seem too long ago but I have obtained a wealth of knowledge I didn't have before and I've even had the time to reflect on myself and women as a whole in the patriarchal society we live in.

I've criticized the women's movement as targeting black women to manipulate us and dismantle the foundation of the black family. I still feel this is very much true. There is no doubt in my mind that the implementation of welfare systems and the feminist movement had a negative impact on the black family. But the more I discover, the more I see that these movements, like many others designed to liberate a group of people, have been themselves manipulated and often infiltrated with the ulterior motives of others.

For the first time in my life, new information about the women's movement was revealed to me. The origins of the movement and the first women to fight for the equal rights of women. Knowing some of the cases that were fought in the early years and the reasons behind these court battles made me a lot more empathetic and understanding. I will always have my critiques of white women, but I have developed a respect and admiration that I didn't have before.

I also feel because all of the oppressive systems we are accustomed to in our overall society are created and governed by white men, I let black men off the hook. I am such an advocate of him that I have allowed his trauma and abuse to allow me to neglect some of his most vital flaws.

I have a deeper understanding of the black man and I know all too well the brutality he has faced at the hands of white America. Black men are at the center of this countries most diabolical tactics and racist laws. Our men and women both suffer from unbearable cases of PTSD, bipolar disorder, anxiety, and depression. We have all been brainwashed and exploited to keep us from unity.

But, with that being said, I realized because of my immense understanding, loyalty, and devotion to the black man, I've never critiqued his behavior. I've internalized his experiences in this country to the point of shielding him. I often find myself sympathizing with the worst of them. Dissecting the pain and trauma he's faced and coming to the conclusions of why he is the way he is. Acknowledging that we are all a product of our environment and we are all victims of generational curses.

But the fact of the matter is, there are black men who absolutely need to be addressed and who need to accept accountability for their actions. That is not to say there are not things black women need to be held accountable for. That's not what this article is about.

I am addressing the fact that although black men hold no power in the American system that conducts oppression against women, many of our brothers have been indoctrinated to uphold those beliefs in our everyday lives and within our community as a whole. Even our most devoted Kings make the mistake of placing us in a box. Viewing us as housewives and maids. It is sometimes subconscious and not deliberate. He may honor, love, and cherish you, support and uplift you, and still fall short in his ability to see you as more than a person meant to raise his children, feed him, and keep the house clean. There are a ton of men who don't even realize they are doing this.

Black men, while searching for validation of their experiences with volatile black women, rarely address their brothers who assisted in making a woman volatile or addressing their brothers who outright take no responsibility for their actions.

I strongly believe that black men deserve a platform to give their grievances and tell their stories, and I think black women should listen. But I also think black men have a lot of work to do in the area of understanding black women.

I think black women rather love a black man than be at odds with him. But we are too caught up in fighting each other, proving who's been hurt the most, and playing games with each other's emotions.

Now, from the signing of the declaration of Independence in 1776 to the Inauguration of the first female vice president in 2021, the United States of America has been dominated by a white male patriarch.

Women's History Month has been a national holiday since 1982 and I heard of it for the first time in 2018. Why is that? I've watched as women fight for equal pay, reproductive rights, the right to work and so much more and I am finding that we need more men to stand up for the rights of women.

Black man, never doubt my love and support for you. We have different battles for sure, but we must fight them together.